For example, a politician who flatters rich campaign donors and starts a rumor about their opponent is being Machiavellian. This describes someone who is strategic and manipulative in their use of other people for personal gain. Now the question is: How do we protect ourselves from falling into a dark triad relationship in the first place? What are the warning signs? And how do we get out of that situation? What is the dark triad?įirst, a quick recap of what the dark triad includes. I hope nothing in that episode resonated with your own experiences with a past or current partner, but if so, you might now be able to put a name to why a relationship feels or felt traumatic. Last week we walked through the destructive relationship patterns of opens in a new windowpeople with the dark triad. What they have in common is a partner who may very well have the dark triad-narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism, a trio of personality traits that spell trouble.
Sadly, this kind of relationship happens to many people, men and women alike. Narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism are a trio of personality traits that spell trouble. She finally made a full break to help herself heal. She felt like she was spinning out of control, feeling uncertain of herself, sometimes even doing things in the bedroom that were uncharacteristic of her. But then she started to see another side of him, one that abused alcohol and drugs to the point of needing her to caretake multiple nights per week, one that lied about money, and one that alternated between making aggressive outbursts and pleading apologies.īy the end of the relationship, this woman said, she felt emotionally and physically exhausted. She described feeling infatuated with her handsome, glamorous boyfriend, who entered her life with a larger-than-life charm. Recently, I read about a woman’s whirlwind dating experience that started out feeling romantic and ended with her seeking therapy for post-traumatic stress disorder. To get out of a relationship with someone like this, bolster yourself with social supports, make sure you plan for safety, and make a clean break. You can spot a person high on the dark triad scale if they have a hard time being warm and friendly (especially if there's nothing to be gained from acting nicely), are prone to risk-taking, use aggressive or dark humor, have difficulty describing or understanding emotions, and have a wobbly moral compass.
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